Coping With Job Loss

When you lose their job or learn that you are about to lose your job, you may experience a wide range of emotions. The reaction to this news can include sadness, anger, fear, numbness, and shame. Experiencing these emotions is normal.

Job loss, like any loss, means letting go of something valuable. Job loss is considered a major life event not unlike the death of a loved one, divorce, or serious injury. It's painful, shocking, and depressing. Don't be surprised if you go through all five stages of grief:

1. Denial (this isn't happening to me!)

2. Anger (why is this happening to me?)

3. Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)

4. Depression (I don't care anymore)

5. Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)

1. Try not to panic.

When you get the official notice, take a deep breath and sit down. Once you have had some time to sort through the events surrounding your job loss, you will (more than likely) find that several mechanisms are in place which will ease the trauma of your transition. If you're laid off, you should be entitled to unemployment benefits, possible severance pay, and, in most major corporations, career transition services.

2. Don't burn bridges.

If we feel that we have been wronged, we may lash out at those around us. The anger we express may make us feel better at that moment, but it could affect us later on. It is important to resolve pent-up anger, but it is better to wait until one has a chance to take stock and carefully think about what needs to be done. Stop and think before you speak negatively about the company or anyone who works at the company including your supervisor, co-workers, staff members, etc.

3. Don't lose control.

Most people can handle serious situations because they have successfully handled them in the past. If you have survived other major life events, you have developed coping skills which will help you in this situation. If, however, you are feeling that you may lose control and harm yourself or others, now is the time to ask for help.